I’ve always hated conflict. Growing up, conflict felt catastrophic. Very early in my life I learned to avoid conflict and make everyone as happy as possible. But avoiding conflict never worked for me. I’m guessing it hasn’t worked for you, either. Resentment grows, walls build, and we’re more separated and less connected when we duck […]
6 Ways to Encourage Wives of Church Staff
There is not a biblical job description for a ministry wife. You can look throughout the Scripture and not find one word on what or how a ministry wife is to perform her role. Through the years, I have searched for ways to help ministry wives understand what it means to live out their life in […]
How to Create a Relational Ministry Mindset
Women do things together. We shop together, have lunch together and even go to the restroom together! What if we could leverage this natural instinct to do things together into a search and rescue mission for the lost? What if we equipped the women in our churches to use their normal “girl stuff” activities as […]
7 Keys to Building Relationships with the Unchurched
Have you ever noticed how many times we in the church say things that are easier said than done? We toss out biblical teachings and clichés and send people off without really making sure that they understand what we mean or providing them with the tools they need to follow through in obedience. In my […]
3 Ways Accountability Advances Kingdom Work
We are not meant to walk the road of ministry alone but instead with kingdom advancing relationships. I have seen first-hand the difference these relationships can make in my own life and the advancement of the Kingdom. As God began calling me out of the casual and into the intimate things of God, I sought […]
How to Lead With Kindness (And Why It Works)
Learn how kindness in leadership can transform relationships with even the most difficult people in this video interview with author, Shaunti Feldhahn. In this video, you will learn: What you should stop doing in order to be a kind leader. Why your team is looking to you as an example of kindness. How kindness can […]
Healthy Boundaries in Mentorship
As ministry leaders, we have a beautiful opportunity to invest into the lives of women in our churches. It may be a new believer, a seasoned believer who needs specific counseling, or perhaps you have been asked to invest in the life of a teen in your church. All of these are wonderful roles that fulfill […]
Want to Build Relationships? Redefine Gossip
Once when I was a teenager and had a friend visiting, my mom stepped into the doorway of my room and said, “Oh, I thought Lindsay was here. I heard you girls talking about her, so I assumed she must have joined you. Otherwise, you were just gossiping, which isn’t nice. So, unless you can […]
Can Our Strengths Be Damaging?
God didn’t create women to be doormats, weak-willed airheads and pathetic losers. God created women to be iron-sharpening friends, creative life-givers and inspiring influencers. He created us to bring Him glory with our strengths. But, if we’re not careful, we can be destructively fierce instead of life-giving and inspiring — especially in our closest relationships. […]
How to Be a Fierce Leader Without Damaging Relationships
He coldly articulated what I’d suspected, but now knew to be true, “I don’t love you.” Outwardly, a long silence followed my husband’s crisply delivered words. What was there to say or add to his announcement? We’d only been married five years. I looked at the beautiful result of a wildly romantic night in Wichita […]
